Legal definition of the word ‘Harassment‘
the act of systematic and/or continued unwanted and annoying actions of one party or a group, including threats and demands. The purposes may vary, including racial prejudice, personal malice, an attempt to force someone to quit a job or grant sexual favors, apply illegal pressure to collect a bill, or merely gain sadistic pleasure from making someone fearful or anxious.
We had a mandatory class about Workplace Harassment yesterday afternoon. Let me just say that it never ceases to amaze me how sensitive people are.
I guess I am fairly sensitive myself… But that ‘sensitive’ feeling is something more akin to annoyance, not harassment. In fact, I rarely feel “harassed” in the workplace. In any place, really. I mean, you have to go out of your way for me to make a deal about it. Like, don’t overtly grab my breasts or ass and we should be just fine (stressing should be — after all, I am a girl ;)).
For the first 15 years of my employment history, I worked in a manual-labor-type environment with mostly only men, and I loved the hell out of it. Yes, they would say things about my breasts, or whistle at me on days I wore a dress. Sometimes they would even tell me that they wouldn’t let me do things “because you’re a girl and girls shouldn’t have to do that with so many men around”. That never offended me. I never felt harassed. I felt like the guys that I worked with cared about me…
For the past 10 years I have worked in an office-type environment with mostly females. I can tell you that I am more offended (and more frequently offended) by women than I ever was by a man! Women are judgmental and catty. Women have no problem telling you how they feel, no matter what the topic is (politics, religion, what you are wearing…) and they also have no problem telling you when your opinions and beliefs are wrong. They also seem to have no problem pretending to be your friend and then turning around and immediately start “shit-talking” you with her
cell-mate neighbor about all the “stuff” you do on your personal time.
Those just aren’t things that men do.
Men are straight-up honest: they don’t gossip (for the most part, unless it’s really juicy) and (generally speaking) they say what they mean, not what they want you to think they mean.
It makes me wonder if maybe there should be gender-specific harassment training…