Easy Anger

Easy Anger

How is it that some people can be so angry with someone they have never, ever met?

Angry Girl

How difficult would it be to get through every day? Spewing rage and filth. Lashing out just for the sake of hurting others?

Why waste life in utter unhappiness? Why ruin other peoples’ days?

Why does anger come so easily to some, while others can practice forgiveness and humility?

How much is nature and how much is nurture?

I often wonder if those people were made to have exceedingly high expectations of life and are now devastated with disappointment?

So much so, that there is need to spread the misery everywhere? Like a backed-up sewer?

Why do some people chose anger over tolerance?

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17 thoughts on “Easy Anger

  1. You’re assuming an awful lot about people you’ve never met. You think it is some kind of crusade? Don’t to ever see someone mugged on the street and express disgust at the thief even if you can’t stop them? It’s witnessing. It’s costless, takes no effort (thanks to reader) and it is doing the right thing. “If you are neutral in situations of injustice, you have chosen the side of the oppressor.” And that I will never do. No one can make you have fidelity, not even those closest to you, but anyone can witness infidelity and express disgust at it.

    1. “You’re assuming an awful lot about people you’ve never met.” As are you.

      “You think it is some kind of crusade?” I do believe that YOU think it’s some kind of twisted crusade. When, really, you should be minding your own business, your own family and your own marriage. I can’t imagine that spending all this time stalking OWs and spewing hate all day is mentally healthy for you OR anyone who spends time with you.

      “Don’t to ever see someone mugged on the street and express disgust at the thief even if you can’t stop them?” Bitching about it (AKA ‘express disgust’) and actually DOING something are two completely different things. Why don’t you start an actual committee of Betrayed Spouses? Maybe join a support group? Heal yourself first and THEN worry about ‘fixing’ other people.

      ‘ “If you are neutral in situations of injustice, you have chosen the side of the oppressor.” ‘ YOU are being an oppressor in your words and actions. Every.Single.Day. How can *I* stand by and let *you* hurt people who have never done you, or your family, any wrong?? I would then be taking YOUR side; the side of the oppressor.

      “No one can make you have fidelity, not even those closest to you, but anyone can witness infidelity and express disgust at it.” No one can make you be kind, not even the closest to you, but I will continue to ‘express disgust’ at your oppressive opinions as long as you continue to visit, and comment on, my blog and blogs in my community.

      Spreading hate is what you have your own blog for. Except you have blocked it. Why don’t you open it back up so you can spread your hatred to the world? Are you afraid of everyone judging you as you have already judged them?

      1. Well said. If she took half the energy she spent on trolling the internet and directed that towards her family, she would be infinitely happier, as would those around her

        Now that I just wrote that, it sounds a lot like what she has written about her husband while he was having his affair, why didn’t he take that energy and pay attention to me? She is in essence “cheating” on her family because she is pouring all of her energy and time into the internet, instead of with them.

        1. Thank you, friend 🙂

          I never thought about it like that, but that’s a very good point. Also, it’s so very much easier to tell others how to be than to look inward and work on oneself.

          1. You would 🙂 it’s such a pain when the moral ground under a cheater is really quicksand. And yes, both parties to an affair are cheaters

  2. If you are referring to a certain person we all know a little too well, I have been asking myself the same question. Who knows what she was like before her husband cheated on her, but clearly something is broken.

    I think there are three main challenges for her.

    1) She has written a story in her head of how infidelity happens and what should happen to the parties afterwards. She is certain, in her head, that her story is the only correct version of events for everyone in the world. When she experiences, day after day, women and stories that don’t fit her version of events, it makes her unstable because that story is the only one that gets her through her day every day. Imagine that battle going on in her head–every day getting slapped in the face with a reality that is different from the only story that allows her to get out of bed every morning
    2) She refuses to accept what happened and release it. To your point, it may be that she had expectations of perfection. It’s like she got stuck in the “anger” phase of the 5 stages of grief. If you never get to acceptance you can never move on with your life. And she equates acceptance with forgetting, which of course it’s not. For some reason she wants to be a victim forever. And victims need perpetrators
    3) I suspect she has some underlying personality disorder. The way she makes everything black and white and her histrionics is classic for borderline personality disorder

    Anyway, that’s my two cents 🙂

  3. Those kind of people will never change. Hatred breeds hatred – the more they feed it by allowing it time in their lives, the more it will grow.

    I believe the bottom line in why they allow it to take over their lives with such magnitude is because they cannot bear to even remotely think they are anything less than perfect.

    Therefore, they wallow in a warped hatred of others.

    Also known as self-pity.

  4. From Nephila: “You’re assuming an awful lot about people you’ve never met”

    LMFAO! That has quite possibly got to be the funniest thing I’ve ever seen the fruitloop write!

    Priceless! 😀

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