Smitten with Him

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Crying Doesn’t Help

on January 20, 2015

Maybe Loserman left me because my blow jobs only merit a 6.5


Perhaps it’s because my kisses are too sloppy or give him a rash

Either way it doesn’t matter, right?

He’s gone and no matter how *I* feel, it doesn’t matter.


My ‘friends” have been trying to get me to cry about Loserman.

They say I need to feel those feelings

(My actual REAL friends, all TWO of them, haven’t said anything about it. When they found out Loserman was gone, they both just told me that they would be there for me if I wanted to talk. And that’s all they’ve said.)

Incidentally, I have cried about him every day since last Thursday.

It doesn’t help. Why does everyone tell me it will?

The last time I saw himΒ  I told him that I missed him, and his response was, “I miss you guys, too.” WTF? Who are ‘you guys’? My kids?!?!

I’m nothing special to him.

14 responses to “Crying Doesn’t Help

  1. Cinn says:

    The only thing that helps heartache is time.
    Try to do things that make you feel good. Pamper yourself any way you can. Don’t wallow. Keep busy.

    It will pass.

    And you deserve better.

    • Thank you. XOX! I am trying not to wallow. It’s PMS time right now, so in a couple of days I don’t think I will feel so defeated and hopeless. Plus tequila…

      I don’t know what I deserve. Loserman knows me better than anyone. I don’t want to start that all over again – with anyone. More and more it’s harder to be without him. I was planning my future out to be with him; I have been since we first met…

      Right now, with my truck being broken, I am forced to communicate with Loserman every couple of days or so and deal with these feelings… There will be at least one upcoming post about that. And it was part of the reason for my drunken ranting yesterday.

  2. oceanswater says:

    Love the graphic… so cute ad so true!

  3. augustmacgregor says:

    I think letting out your emotions — crying, bellowing out, etc. — can help. I don’t mean that this will take away the ache. But I think it helps. You may have felt worse if you hadn’t cried every day. Time certainly does help, though. As does talking, and you may have to chase down those real-life friends for talking if they’re not going to contact you first.

    • Thank you for saying that. You’re probably right, if I hadn’t cried those days I could be even sadder now – I hadn’t looked at it that way.

      Also, I just haven’t wanted to talk about it. Talking makes me sad. I like that those friends are giving me time to be ready. One of them already reached out to me this morning. I love them so much!

  4. Cinn is right. Just time. And crying is the physical release if emotion, if your body needs it, think of it as an emotional workout…it sucks when youre doing it but you do feel better when its over. Hang in there darling, its a bumpy ride far from over. Day by day.

  5. Confessions of Your Husband's Mistress says:

    Damn. That feeling of feeling unspecial. Ouch. I hope you see in time that you are special and lovely and wonderful. You have so much to bring to a relationship. This heartache won’t define you! Cry all you need to cry. Scream and shout too if that feels right. Cinn is right, time will heal the hurt.

    • We’re all special. At times it’s just so hard to remember. And the heartache will just make me a better person… (BTW – I’ve been screaming and shouting a lot!)
      Thank you for the reminder πŸ™‚ ❀

  6. There’s plenty of very attractive and attentive people out there waiting to meet you… don’t lose heart.

Talk to me :-)

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