Smitten with Him

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The Nigerian

on March 10, 2015

Azi = Youth

Azi and I have had 3 “dates”: one back in November, one two weeks ago and one last Monday. We had dinner together the first time and sex all 3 times.

It was good sex all 3 times. He’s a very nice man, but there isn’t any ‘electricity’ (probably that’s because he’s not a total douchebag asshole that needs me for my money *sigh*).

For a 51-year-old man he has quite the stamina. And, he can get me off! Although he’s a lot more vanilla than what I desire right now, he appears to be much less of a jerk than the guys who normally express interest in me. So, that’s a plus.

He isn’t really into kissing, but at least it’s not because I’m gross or sloppy or germy or anything like Scorpio said… In Nigeria, kissing is a form of greeting: men kiss men to say “Hello” or “Goodbye”; lip-locking isn’t something they really do with women. It’s quite obvious and a little comical when he kisses me: he gives me a quick peck so fast that I don’t even have time to pucker up and return (or enjoy) it. Clearly it’s just a “Hello” or “Good-bye” thing for him.

He’s a brilliant man with a Masters in Finance. Sometimes he wants to talk to me about my job (Staff Accountant), but I don’t have a degree so I just listen to him talk and try to understand what he’s saying.

Other times he wants to be like a therapist and counsel/help me on things like my broken marriage, my recently-failed relationship with Loserman (this topic actually fascinates him to the point of my tears – then he fucks me… 😉 ) and also the headaches that the Atlanta ladies at work frequently give me and my boss-lady.

Last Monday we talked about relationships and the differences between the sexes; what happened when his marriage broke; talking to his grown children about relationships, etc… He told me I am very wise and in touch with all of that – which surprised him coming from a woman, but he didn’t say it in a condescending way.

We are very different people…

  • I’m a white girl from the United States and he’s a black man born and raised in Nigeria. He moved to the USA in his late 20s – culturally we are very different, but we have both been accepting and understanding of that.
  • He’s kinda religious – has a shrine in his bedroom that he prays to every morning and night. However, he’s open-minded and we have brief philosophical discussions about religion (and relationships) – then he fucks me…
  • Like I said, he’s vanilla when it comes to sex. VERY!! Missionary is his preferred position. In fact, we’ve done it in the exact same position every single time. I am hoping to change that but I am not looking change him (maybe he just hasn’t had a girl who knows how to be on top 😉 ).
  • He drives an old white mini-van = kinda creepy (I was early to our first date and, after I saw what he was driving, I almost left before we even met. I’m glad I didn’t go… During that date, he mentioned that his daughter told him he needs to get a different vehicle: something less creepy. LOL!)
  • Umm… He has a fucking Masters Degree! And all I gots is some high school learnin’… *sigh* But I still have great and (intellectually) stimulating conversations with him!

I like him alright, but there isn’t any spark with him – at least not on my side of things… Thinking about him doesn’t make my panties all wet and squishy like Mr. X or Loserman did, but I *do* look forward to our post-coital chats.

4 responses to “The Nigerian

  1. I love post sex chats. They are the best and men tend to open up more during them. If they aren’t asleep. Sigh.

    I’m with you on the creepy “free candy” van. That would have run me off.

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