In a little less than 3 weeks, Thing #1 and I will be moving to a new apartment across town.
Finally, after a year of being divorced, Doom-n-Gloom will no longer be living in my apartment.
I’m super duper excited!!!
However, Thing #2 is kind of creating issues.
She has decided she would like to continue living with her father.
She’s 18 and graduated. Therefore she can pretty much do what she wants. I’m just not sure why this is what she wants.
It could be a couple of a few reasons (and probably a million more)…
- She really doesn’t like sharing a room with her sister (understandably. They’re both adults)
- We are moving too far across town and she will be too far away from her boyfriend of 5 years
- She is afraid (and rightly so) that her father will be unable to take care of himself and will end up homeless sooner than later
(Personally, I am more worried about him killing himself, but let’s not go there…)
- Simple pride. She is worried that I will think she’s a failure if she can’t find somewhere to live after she told me so obstinately that she could
One issue is: it’s only 3 weeks away and they still haven’t found a place to live. Right now, the Denver housing market is insane and nearly impossible to find something affordable 3 months out, let alone 19 days!
A bigger issue is: Doom-n-Gloom STILL has no form of government issued ID. So he has no way to be able to lease anything in his name. Also, he STILL only works part time.
I have told Thing #2 numerous times that she can come with us; that I would LOVE her to come with us. I have even asked Doom-n-Gloom to say something to her, but he got all defensive and angry and wasn’t any help at all.
I tell her that I will stay in the living room at our new place like I do at our current apartment (or I’d share a room with Thing #1) so she can have the 2nd bedroom to herself and some privacy.
The apartments they are looking at are only one bedrooms – because they can’t afford anything more.
I’ve tried explaining to her how hard it actually is to “take care of” Doom-n-Gloom: he is incapable of paying any type of bill or cleaning up after himself in any way. I don’t want her being his new mother. At the age of 48, he should be able to handle things on his own – completely – not rely upon his baby girl to do it. If he was an invalid, that would be one thing, but he’s perfectly capable, just fucking lazy as hell.
And, at the age of 18, she should be free of that responsibility!
I’m worried for her, but I know I need to stay out and mind my own business. This is not the time to meddle… She won’t do what I ask/say anyway.
Maybe she’ll hide in one of the boxes and we’ll find her while we’re unpacking!! LOL!
I can always hope ❤