A friend of mine said something to me last week that made me think (probably more than I should have):
“The first time in the BDSM life style can be a bit overwhelming and, if you really enjoy it, a person can fall fast and hard for their first partner if they are not careful.”
I remember how much I liked my first “boyfriend”…
How enamored I was with the man I gave my virginity to…
Firsts are special.
Some firsts more special than others.
Particularly when it comes to vulnerability and feelings.
A bad first might cause us to be more guarded.
A good first might only be good for ONE person, but not the other.
A powerful first might cause us to be blind to important things.
But, in the end, does that really even matter?
We were here.
We were hurt.
We tried again.