(I drafted this some time last summer with the intent of filling in all the dot-dot-dots, but I think I like it better this way… 😉 )
Sex can be deceitful
If you have sex too early…
If you have sex too late…
If you only have sex…
If you never have sex…
Sexual energy builds tension but it also adds tension…
Yet the intimacy of it is vital
To feel the touch of another…
To combine with another soul…
It replenishes one’s self…
After almost a year of “dating” once a month or so still no sex.
No hope for it either, really. He was happy rubbing on my nyloned legs and taking pictures of them in heels and hose, but was also happy enough just to go home and whack the sausage alone after it was all said and done. One time he even mentioned how strange he thought it was that he never felt comfortable kissing me.
So there wasn’t any kissing either…
Last Friday night Mr. Nice Guy and I went out on another, quite lovely date.
He has a serious shoe fetish and, a couple of weeks ago, I mentioned that he should take me to Designer Shoe Warehouse (DSW) where I could model shoes for him and he could take pictures.
He went absolutely crazy over the idea. So, last Friday evening he took me out shopping. Let me tell you that it was a lovely diversion from the Mick drama over the past few days.
First, we met in parking lot of the sex shop (Fascinations) near our work. (It’s where we always meet and we joke about it every time because there is a marijuana dispensary right across the street! How fitting, right?)
Last Tuesday night I went on a “Tinder date”.
I was pretty sure it was only supposed to be a one-night stand, but that’s what Dreamboat was supposed to be and now he’s planning our long-term future together (still!).
This guy seemed okay from our brief Tinder conversations. My standard for that is: keep it brief and still be conversational; use some wit and we should be golden.
It’s pretty easy to tell if I’ll have any chemistry with someone based on this Initial Intelligence Interaction.
So… Why did I change my mind and decide to let Mick have 6 months of my life and my self?
Basically it all boils down to the fact that he treats me the way I’ve always wished to be treated.
And it’s only 6 months, 180 days… If it doesn’t work, I didn’t even waste a year on trying to figure it out. Shit! I’ve wasted that much time on Alaska! Although it is much easier to figure things out with Mick because he communicates.
Below are my email correspondences with Mick the day after our choking incident/mishap/”episode”…
Hope you’re having a good day! I saw this picture and it made me laugh. I love a good bed to jump into and have it fluff all around me. Work is creeping along here like a turtle. I sincerely wish I could be jumping into that fluffy bed next to you.
Last night was amazing and special and very memorable. Thank you so much for sharing little bits of your soul with me. Yes, you’ve told me that you won’t be able to talk with me about some of those things ever – just the fact that you stayed mentally with me last night and didn’t withdraw into yourself was very special and meant a lot to me. And I was only scared for a millisecond. When I saw your face, I realized where I was, that I was safe and heard the same song still playing (though I can’t remember what it is now 😉 )
Enough of that sappiness… You are great and wonderful and I feel ever so special when I’m with you – like I’ve never known! Thank you for a lovely night and morning!
Unfortunately, life and work are necessities.
Imagine how droll sex would actually be if that’s all we ever did!.
Instead, we trudge on through our sordid lives looking for that bit of relief and release that intimacy provides us.
This book is brilliant!! Steve Harvey offers up advice to women and it’s SPOT ON!!
And blatantly honest. At one point in the book he addresses cheating and how all men will cheat on their spouse if given the chance and enough reason/motivation. I appreciate that.
He talks about:
- what a man needs to accomplish before getting seriously involved with someone
- how to tell if a man is really into you or playing around
- how a man shows you he loves you
- how to communicate with men and what a man needs in a relationship
- AND how women need to actually MAKE their men take care of them! Require him to open the door for you, etc…
I’m almost finished reading it and I want to rush out buy it for every woman I know – whether she’s in a relationship or not!
For sure I am getting it for my daughters!