Smitten with Him

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Fate or Coincidence


After I got back from skating Sunday night, I sat down and wrote the following email to Mick.

Good morning, Sunshine! (I hope you’re sleeping when I send this!)

I’m home from skating, fed and ready for bed.

As funny as this might sound, I’m kinda glad we don’t have more time together. There’s a few reasons, but I think that one of the biggest ones is – I don’t want us to get sick of each other too early. I also like you very much and I don’t want anything bad to happen that might end what we’ve started before it really gets going, because I also really enjoy hanging with you. I’m worried that today might have jeopardized our time together…

I’m glad I tire you out in such a pleasant way and can provide you with a fun diversion. I have an idea for something that will make good and different marks 😉 Practice makes perfect and I like the ropes… Next time I will stretch first. Hahahaha….

See you in your kinkiest dreams

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Ahhh, FetLife

I have ‘met’ a few men through FetLife (here’s a post about one of them), but I’ve only met two in person.

The first man was back at the end of April, right before TC flew out to meet me in May. He was my age. We got together twice, but I didn’t like him so much. Once he told me he was married, that was the end. He wanted to continue things, but I explained to him I no longer wanted to be the “other woman” (that and the fact that I didn’t really like his whiny ass very much).

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Word of the Day: Compassion


Excerpts taken from Compassion is Unreasonable on Om Swami

(I recommend clicking the link above and reading the entire article. It’s not much longer, and better, than the little I have reposted here.)

…Compassion is in fact an unreasonable emotion. It is not really based on any reasoning. For, mind is the seat of reasoning whereas it is heart for the compassion. As a behavior, compassion may well be supported by some reason, but as an emotion, a feeling, it is neither supported nor triggered by any reason. Behavior can be deceptive but feelings, because they live inside you, cannot be artificial. They are what they are.

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‘Warning’ by Jenny Joseph


by: Jenny Joseph

When I am an old woman I shall wear purple
With a red hat which doesn’t go, and doesn’t suit me.
And I shall spend my pension on brandy and summer gloves
And satin sandals, and say we’ve no money for butter.

I shall sit down on the pavement when I’m tired
And gobble up samples in shops and press alarm bells
And run my stick along the public railings
And make up for the sobriety of my youth.

I shall go out in my slippers in the rain
And pick flowers in other people’s gardens
And learn to spit.

You can wear terrible shirts and grow more fat
And eat three pounds of sausages at a go
Or only bread and pickle for a week
And hoard pens and pencils and beermats and things in boxes.

But now we must have clothes that keep us dry
And pay our rent and not swear in the street
And set a good example for the children.
We must have friends to dinner and read the papers.

But maybe I ought to practice a little now?
So people who know me are not too shocked and surprised
When suddenly I am old, and start to wear purple.


Who Knew?!?…

Woo hoo! I’ve been doing this for years!

The Pros and Cons of Mixing Marijuana and Yoga

Yogi fans and recreational pot-users weigh in with sage advice.


Admit it — with all this wellness and legalization on the rise, combining these two recreations has crossed your clever mind. So let’s just get it out there on the table like the healthy communicators we are.

What are the benefits of extra-zen, cannabis-aided yoga?! What are the potential downsides of bending backwards while high…?

We’ve got those answers for you, and more, thanks to one future-yoga-studio-owner who asked the question and prompted quite the discussion. Here’s what people — who’ve paired the activities before — had to say.


  • Can increase focus and enrich meditation
  • Can allow for a greater feeling of connectedness with others
  • Can enhance body awareness
  • “Marijuana can often enhance your ability to focus on one thing, and with well trained and compassionate teachers that make sure the students aren’t pushing themselves and are within their limits I think a wonderful balance can be struck.”
  • It is an amazing experience that helps open my mind and body to learning. I feel relaxed, more willing to challenge myself, more connected to my yogi community in class, and the meditation/visualization exercises are extremely enjoyable.”
  • I used to enjoy a few hits and then attend a restorative class called “Sunday Sanctuary” and it was like heaven. Very relaxing and I found I was MUCH more aware of my body and breathing.”


  • Can cause anxiety (aka: paranoia)
  • Can lead to over-stretching
  • Can make it logistically difficult to drive to and from the studio…

I personally find that marijuana interferes with meditation, which is the main part of my practice personally, but some Shavite sects still ritually use it. Sadhus, which are renunciate yogis, regularly use it.”

I tend to pull something if I’m not totally paying attention, were I high I know I’d fuck myself up even more.”

Some people experience high levels of anxiety during their first time being high. I’d imagine the meditative components of yoga would ameliorate most newbies” anxiety, but not all. Just something to think about.”

I used to combine the two, but I came to realize that when high, I was not as mindful as I could be (I was more absent-minded than undistracted and focused) and a few times, I actually pushed myself into a bad place for my joints because I was not mindful.”

For those still interested in grabbing their best bud and trying out the hybrid activity, here are some words from the wise:

Caveats of doing yoga high:

  1. Use a vaporizer instead of a pipe “Can be used inside without leaving a haze, and easier on the lungs for a breath-oriented practice like yoga.”
  2. If you go to a class make sure your teacher’s not high (LMAO – good one!!) “I think good teachers could make sure the students are safe regardless of sobriety. I wouldn”t condone the teachers being high.”
  3. Be experienced in both pot and yoga before you try it “Since it numbs pain, I”m conscious of being too high and pushing stretches too hard. It might end up causing damage. I would only suggest it for experienced pot smokers who also practice yoga.”
  4. Consider trying it with restorative yoga “While I probably wouldn”t participate in any kind of power yoga or ashtanga after dabbling with weed, I do love some nice hatha, light vinyasa, and ESPECIALLY restorative!!!”
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Practice Makes Perfect

It’s so cute! Ever since Thing #1 started Beauty School in September, she’s been calling me every morning when she gets to school and every evening when she gets out.

Regency Beauty instI am not saying it’s unwelcome, just unexpected, and I think I like it, but we’ve never been phone-talking-type people so this behavior from her is strange and a little difficult to get used to.

I don’t think she’s calling me because she misses me or that she wants to hear the sound of my voice (although that thought does please me greatly), she’s simply calling me because the bus drops her off almost 30 minutes before school starts and she gets to the bus stop in the evening 15 minutes before her bus leaves.

I am SO proud of her. She just adapted to this new life like it wasn’t new to her at all.

She has to take public transportation — something completely new to her. So new that I asked Loverman to go with her on the bus for her first day. He actually did it! (I am not surprised that he did it, that’s why I asked him to. He likes Thing #1, too). Then he found things to do and waited around ALL DAY for her to be done with classes so he could walk back to the bus stop with her and make sure she knows exactly what to do. On top of it, he told her that if she ever has problems (like getting on the wrong bus or something like that) not to hesitate to call him and he will do anything he can to help her. Mr. Doom-n-Gloom hasn’t said anything to her about it at all — and he’s her REAL father!

I would like her to get a job, but her school schedule kind of disrupts any kind of regular schedule she could have. She has been filling out applications for jobs on-line and there is a Dunkin’ Donuts opening by our house in a few weeks — maybe one of those can pan out.

This weekend, her homework was to fill out 12 postcards with friends’ names asking them to come and check her out. She came to me at 10PM Monday night asking if she could have some of my friends’ addresses and I told her to just go on Facebook and ask some of her friends — in less than 10 minutes she had more than enough responses to fill out all her postcards. I think that really helped to get her excited.

(But I am not opposed to posting and endorsement for her here and on my Facebook page 😉 ) If you don’t mind getting your hair cut and/or colored, nails done, or a facial by a talented and blossoming student (and you live in North Denver), please let me know and I’ll hook you up! The rates are totally awesome and Thing #1 just started working “the floor” this week. She would be super-excited to have “regulars”, or even just to have someone ask for her by preference. And, Guys, don’t think that you’re excluded in this either. She is thinking about going to Barber School after this because she would rather spend her days in a Barber Shop than in a Beauty Salon (boys are just funner to hang out with than girls, I guess).

So far, she has buzz-cut my hair (I shave the little curly hairs at the back of my neck — but she says that’s her favorite thing to do), done Thing #2’s nails numerous times and braided cornrows in my hair. I know that isn’t much, but she’s been practicing on her mannequins for the last 8 weeks and she just started with “real” customers two days ago. Just remember that:

Practice makes perfect