Smitten with Him

grown-up stuff happens here sometimes

Things…

Quite a few times now I have sat down to write all of the things that are happening to me… All the feelings that are going on inside of me…

The words just don’t flow. I feel like I am staggering drunkenly across the page each time I scrawl something new (and that’s a challenge because I’m typing. hehehe…).

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Oops! My Bad…

Loserman posted some shit on Facebook yesterday about a couple of junkyards around the city running specials right now because it’s hella-cold outside and no one in their right mind wants to spend a prolonged period out in the elements pulling junk (metal) parts.

Remember, he still needs to fix my truck and his deadline is…

**drum-roll**

TODAY.

BTW – he hasn’t even started… *smh* And he hasn’t given me any progress updates. Big surprise, right?

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Dumbass

I talked on the phone with Loverman last Saturday morning. Pretty much the entire conversation just irritated the hell out of me. He doesn’t listen. We’ve talked about it in the past, but he doesn’t listen. He gets hooked on the first thing I say and then imagines in his head what he’s going to say the entire time I am talking. Not listening.

I thought it started out well. He was telling me about his week and how, for the last 3 days, he was so sick he couldn’t get out of bed. I asked if he was feeling any better and he completely avoided the question and started telling me how he called enough friends and rallied enough money to get his water turned back on. That was awesome! I told him good job and asked if he felt a lot better now that he had a little control over something. There was just uncomfortable silence.

So, I brought up the car of mine he just finished fixing.

Aside:
It took him 5 years, but it’s finally done! I understand that he doesn’t have a workshop and all sorts of other things. Which is why it took so long. At the beginning, when he first started working on my car, it bothered me how long it was taking. Eventually I started to realize that, the more I bothered him about getting it done, the less he actually worked on it. He is also that way with his friends when they need him to work on their cars. So, I stopped bugging him about it and, about 2 years ago, I had pretty much written that poor car off as a loss. Having it now is strange.

Usually, when he’s done fixing or doing something to my truck, Bear, he likes a total progress report of how the vehicle is running afterward. I thought he would want to know the same for Breeze. My mistake.

I told him, “When you turn on the headlights, the dashboard lights go out. But, when the parking lights are on, the dashboard lights work just fine.” (Also, after further investigation Sunday night, the tail lights aren’t working either, but the brake lights do. I didn’t bother to tell him about that, but I will have to do something about it if I want to drive the car at night…)

“What do you mean?”

“Ummm. When you turn the knob on the steering column to the ‘Headlights On’ position, the lights behind all the gauges go out completely. But if you just leave the knob in the ‘Parking Lights’ position, the lights show up behind the gauges just fine.” At this point, on this topic, I was starting to get irritated so I spoke very slowly and clearly. I was frustrated that he was being so dense.

“Was that a problem before you gave me the car to fix?”

“I don’t think so. I’m giving you a status report on the car after I’d had a chance to drive it a couple of days. I’m not complaining or anything, I’m just telling you what’s going on with it. That’s what we usually do with Bear when you fix him.”

“Well, if it’s something that was broken before you gave it to me, then I won’t be able to fix it for you.”

WTF? I thought. Is he cutting me off because we had a disagreement?!? “Okay. I got it.”

Then, like a dumbass, I asked him if we were going to reschedule our sk8-venture this fall since the one we had already planned was cancelled. Loverman said, “I thought we weren’t doing that now.”

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I was confused and didn’t know what to say to that, but I didn’t want to NOT say anything either. “I thought we were going to reschedule a new one. We just haven’t had time to talk about it. It has been over 3 weeks since we’ve had the chance to sit down and plan something out.”

“Yeah. Huh.” Was all he said in response.

“So, do you think you could say ‘Yes’ to me about this coming Tuesday? Maybe we can figure things out then.” (remember, this is before Mr. AM emailed me Monday morning)

“What do you mean ‘Yes to this coming Tuesday’?” He asked.

“You know, our regular Tuesday Date Night? We haven’t been together for a long time. I think it would be really nice if we both had something to look forward to.”

“I don’t know. I will have to let you know Monday.” (he didn’t, by the way. Hence the plans with Mr. AM.)

Near the end of our conversation, we were talking about something else and he called one of his “friends” dumbass. He refers to her as that frequently, he also calls his wife that and two of his other friends. I get that he’s joking, but he calls them that so often, sometimes I can’t figure out who he’s talking about. He sure has a lot of dumbasses in his life!

After he was done telling me his story, I made the mistake of asking him if he ever calls ME dumbass when he’s talking to his friends. “No, I call you by your name when I talk about you. Why would you think I call you dumbass?”

“Because you call all your other friends dumbass when we’re talking. I was just wondering…”

More awkward silence.

I asked him to be sure to let me know about date night sometime on Monday so I would be able to pack a bag. He agreed. The conversation ended uncomfortably.

Sunday we didn’t talk/text at all.

Monday morning at 8:15, I sent him my usual “At work safe” text. I asked if he was feeling better and said to have a good day. I didn’t mention date night at all.

When I didn’t receive a response, I decided to say “Yes” to Mr. AM.

Loverman finally responded at 2:30 yesterday (Monday) afternoon with, “Thank you for letting me know you are at work safe. I will check Breeze out.” He sent it twice.

I sent him one more text, at 9:49, before I went to bed that said, “I hope you are feeling better. Have a good night.”

I haven’t heard back from him since. I hope he’s okay and that he’s just sulking and have a huge pity-me party on Facebook.

But I think that’s the last thing I will do to initiate contact with him. If he wants to talk to me, he can reach out to me.

I don’t feel like chasing him down this time.

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Tying Up Some Loose Ends

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Thing #1’s ovarian cyst went away just like it was supposed to about 2 weeks ago. Now she has absolutely no excuse not to go to beauty school every single day!

ABC hasn’t called back 😦 or sent me an email, to let me know if I was picked for the Nightline episode on infidelity and on-line dating. I thought they told me the episode would air the 21st. It couldn’t have been June 21st because the show didn’t air that night. So, not all hope is lost I guess.

Attorney-man never called me back about a date. He emailed me twice after the initial contact this spring. The second one was to tell me to be patient with him, he just switched jobs and was very busy. Which is honestly true. He’s a connection of mine on LinkedIn.

My next sk8-venture with Loverman has been cancelled. The actual event was cancelled because the rink that was hosting it closed down last month. Great planning on their part, eh? I found out about 3 weeks ago and told Loverman. We haven’t made replacement plans yet and, judging by the way things have been going recently, I’m not sure I want to reschedule a new one (at least not with him).

And the best news of all — I got an email from Mr. AM this morning! We were originally not supposed to meet again until next Tuesday, but this was waiting in my in-box for me this morning:

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Ooooohhhh! I like him SO much! He is very no-nonsense. That email even gave me goosebumps!

My response:

Monday-Morning-Response

I can’t even begin to tell you how excited I am for tomorrow night!

It’s like next week jumped into my lap and yelled “Surprise!”

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Things in General

I was hoping that I would get the replacement charger/power supply for my laptop before the weekend, but it looks like that isn’t going to happen 🙂 I did go to Best Buy last weekend to get one, though. It turns out that the chargers are 3-times more expensive there (or at Radio Shack) than through EBay *sigh*. So, I paid $11.99 instead of $37-$70 and I am now at the mercy of the seller and the USPS. If I’m lucky, I will get it Saturday.

Yesterday and today have been a little quieter at work. Which is really nice because I have been so busy lately that I have been making to-d0 lists and prioritizing things. Busy is nice, too, it’s just nice to have a break. (**PLUG** If you or someone you love is looking to buy or sell a house in Denver, let me know and I can hook you up with our website and one of our agents! 🙂 )

Sad EeyoreMr. Doom-n-Gloom has been his regular gloomy self. I would say that he is like Eeyore, but Eeyore is cute and endearing, Mr. Gloom is only dreary and gloomy. He wears it like a uniform — something that he puts on every single day when he leaves his hole of a bedroom. I would expect that he would be a little more happy because he got the test results from his most recent bloodwork and found out that his kidneys are now functioning at 42% — up 8% from three months ago. He was disappointed that I didn’t do a happy dance with him, but I wouldn’t be happy if my kidneys were only cleaning out my body at 42% effectiveness… Especially since his complete bodily neglect is what landed him in this predicament to begin with — still now he isn’t eating what he’s supposed to and he’s stopped exercising completely! I can be thankful to him, though, because he has really inspired me to lose weight and stop doing evil things to my body. I want to be around until my kids are sick of me and praying for me to die! I want to see Thing #1 and Thing #2 as adults. I want to see my grandkids grow up and become adults (if my girls have any). When I ask Mr. Gloom about these things, he just shrugs and says, “If I see them I see them.” He has already resigned himself to death-by-60 and, even though his father has broken the ‘curse‘, Mr. Gloom is perpetuating a self-fulfilling prophecy of doom.

On another gloom note… Boss-lady stayed home today because of the weather, so that has given bitchy girl, my co-worker, carte blanche to do whatever she wants. She spent two hours from the second she got here at 9AM, arguing with different customer service reps about car loans and why they won’t give her one… I am guessing they really won’t give her one if she keeps talking to them the way she has been… A while ago, a full 135 minutes after she got here, she stormed out of the office and slammed the door. Honestly, I am completely over her professionalism drama. Every fucking time that boss-lady is gone, bitchy girl has a meltdown — I am just hoping this time that it doesn’t overflow on me. Just a sec, let me go close my door in case she gets any ideas of who to go after next…

Okay, now for a little bit of goodness (because that’s what really keeps me going)…
Loverman and I have been totally enjoying each other’s company and I have been completely reveling in it. The last 4 months have been filled with fairly consistent date nights and skate nights. As for the sk8venture that we’re taking this October, I am SO excited! We’ve talked about it a couple of times and I think I have convinced him to go to the Price is Right on the Monday before we leave. If he’s serious, I am going to find out more info 🙂 It would be SO COOL if we got picked.

Last week my truck, Bear, started acting totally crazy. He doesn’t want to go up hills any more. Just a couple of weeks ago he had so much torque… Maybe he’s just sick of driving us up the mountain every week for “date night”. It’s also been revving like crazy — it acts like the throttle is stuck open, but it isn’t. Oil has been leaking through the valve cover gasket and saturating the spark plugs and wires. So, Loverman cleaned out the cylinders, the spark plugs and the plug wires on Monday and that seemed to help a little — but, sadly, not as much as it has been. This summer, we’re going to take him apart again and rebuild the engine — we were going to do it last year, but Loverman hasn’t been able to finish up my car yet. Once my ’95 Plymouth Breeze is back up and running, it will be time to work on Bear. He needs it.

It’s going to be a cold and snowy weekend here in Denver. I am going to try and finish the book I’ve been reading: Gone Girl by Gillian Flynn.

And then, of course there’s the Super Bowl!!

GO BRONCOS!!!

Time to Ride

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Aarrgghh!

My laptop charging cord is broken and I am totally swamped at work!

Happy Hump Day

Drunk Bruce

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It’s Been a While, Eh?

busy-ladyI am so sorry for neglecting my blog! I haven’t had much to write about and there hasn’t been that much time for me to write it.  Usually when things are going well in my life, everything just falls into place and I just get so comfortable. Also, I have been SO busy with work that when I get home the last thing I really want to do is “play around” more on a computer.

And, of course, there are the obligatory skate nights 3 times a week and my (life-permitting) date nights with Loverman on Tuesday’s 😉

Boss-Lady has me working on an instruction manual for what I do (and that takes forever to do! I am such a perfectionist *sigh*).  On top of that, I still haven’t had time to work much on my database that I wanted to start back in November. It’s awesome, though! Even though I don’t have as much time to post my entries on here, it does mean that work is picking up for me and I will have job security that much longer!

Mr. Doom-n-Gloom has been minding his own business and staying out of my way. As of next Monday, he will no longer be a package handler for FedEx Ground, he will be moving to Quality Control. That’s a good thing because he will mostly be working by himself — he has a very hard time getting along with people because he always knows more than them… But, it’s also a bad thing because now he will be getting little-to-no physical activity pretty much ever. At least when he was handling packages he was exercising (which is something his kidney doctor told him he HAS to do. Every. Single. Day!)!

Thing #1 has been doing well in beauty school. Last Saturday she cut my hair and did a TOTALLY awesome job! Loverman even said so 🙂 I wish I could show you how great it looks!

Thing #2 and I have been getting along swimmingly, which is nice just because it is. Lately she has been spending less time being angry at everyone, but she still knows everything. So cute because she’s so much like me at that age, yet so infuriating!

Things with Loverman have been awesome. We have decided that our next big skate trip will be to Cerritos, CA at the end of October (I am so excited and it’s still SO far away!). This time we will be flying instead of driving. It’s a 3-day event and I would like to take a couple of extra days to see Los Angeles — maybe even get to the Price is Right (LOL!). I told Loverman I wanted to try. Hopefully I will be able to take time this weekend to tell you about all of that good stuff since the new year started.

Don’t forget that all of you are beautiful just because you exist! and have a great Thursday!

Happy Thursday

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Update

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Whew… It’s been busy…

Work has finally quieted down a little bit. The preliminary budget was submitted last Friday and, hopefully, this week I will have time to build a new database in my Access 2013!! I checked out the …For Dummies book from the library yesterday and I am ready to start learning!

Last Tuesday Loverman and I were back on our regular date-night schedule, we had a great time even though we kept it very simple and were both asleep by 10PM. We were exhausted and it was nice (comfortable) just to be together again.

Thing #2 turned 16 last Saturday. She had a couple of friends over and we played Apples to Apples. I had forgotten how infuriating it is to play games with (other people’s) teenagers, but we lived through it and she had a wonderful time! On the other hand, though, I am starting to feel a little old with my 18- and 16-year-old daughters.

I have no idea what we’re going be eating for Thanksgiving this year. It’s nice because we have that option. There is no extended family nearby that we have to cater to (no pun intended 😉 ), so basically we just make whatever we want. Thing #1 and I watch football and play video games. Everyone pretty much goes their own way and does their own thing. All I know is that I bought a Pecan Pie that was on sale at Wal-Mart this weekend, so I bought some and froze it for this Thursday.

We’ll probably have the standard turkey and stuffing fare — that’s what Mr. Doom-n-Gloom likes. He likes spending time on the turkey and I found a really yummy-looking stuffing recipe on BonAppetit.com that I want to try out. Do you think they have fennel at Sprouts? Is it seasonal? I have never used it in cooking before, but I would think that it should be kind of by the leeks, right?

cornbread-dressing-with-sausage-and-fennel1So, this Thanksgiving (as with every Thanksgiving for the past 5 years) I am thankful that we don’t have to drive all over hell and back (all in one day) in order to make all of the different extended family members happy. Now all we have to do is call people sometime to wish them a happy day and then take some pictures to send later.

I hope to say something more tomorrow if I have more time, but if I don’t:

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